Well it's been one hell of a ride these last 18 months or so. I guess it started when I was reacquainted with an old primary school friend. This bond suddenly reconnected and reminded me of who I was.
Pretty powerful stuff really.
So I set off on a journey of rediscovery.
Rediscovery of the self that I had forgotten, the self that had been buried under layers of conditioning, defense tactics and false assumptions.
I began yoga classes and enrolled in meditation classes and started to explore this new but old me.
I had long known I was not happy in my marriage and that resurfaced yet again for one final showdown.
Now, it does get a bit nasty here, but stay with me and you'll see that this is not a negative post at all, but an extremely positive one.
Let's just say that I ended up being assaulted rather seriously, undergoing two hospitalisations that included surgery to reconstruct my eye socket using titanium plates.
I know that probably sounds rather devastating and it partly was but it was also partly or quite prominently, relieving or liberating.
It was over.
There was no turning back and no wondering if I had made the right decision or not.
There was a sense of peace.
Obviously I have my moments where the repercussions play out in various situations or within various relationships, but I am now free.
Free to be me with the support of some amazing friends and family. Oh and I can't forget that according to my Son I now also have Superhero Cred - you know, being part Titanium and all.
This now leads me to the next BIG event that took place shortly after the above.
After 15 years of absolutely no contact with my father, a birthday card arrives in the mail.
Hello!!?? What is with 2010??
It is a time when of course I could do with as much support as possible, but he didn't know that. I leave it for a month or so before contacting him as I have a fair bit on my plate including returning to work after 7 weeks on sick leave recuperating.
Well, I'm pleased to say that we enjoy the best relationship we have ever had, enriched by his wife, her daughter etc etc.
Wow, my family is getting bigger by the moment.
Then another surprise.... Oh come on!! Enough already.
My boss of approx 6 years resigns and moves interstate, just when I really need the support and understanding around me with new circumstances to deal with.
By September I'm not doing so well.
It's all feeling too overwhelming and I'm ready to quit my job, move interstate or lordy knows what, but something drastic.
So, of course, me being me, I decide on a very last minute trip to Thailand with the children. Helping that decision was a new friend I had very recently met and became friends with under rather random and bizarre circumstances (or was it?), but greatly appreciated as he has since proved to truly be a friend indeed.
Oh, a week of paddling and swimming with my beautiful children in those deliciously warm waters of Koh Samui, feeling alive and hopeful again.
A chance meeting with another stranger ensures I'm reminded what it feels like to laugh and smile again and feel free on the back of a motorcycle, no helmet, surrounded by the thick humid air heavily scented with frangipanis. Another life long friend made perhaps.
So, now you know the lead up to the beginnings of this blog, the much needed backpacking trip through Asia with my beautiful children in tow.
Well, brace yourself for yet another BIG surprise.
Whilst sitting at my computer one day, deeply entrenched in writing a tender, I receive a phone call from a lady looking for her 'birth mother' and long lost relatives.
After two hours of talking, I got off the phone with my Big Sister.
Yep! Sister!!
Oh, now nothing could surprise me now - I mean really! I think a spaceship could land in the backyard and I'd go and boil the kettle and invite them in for tea!
This should be a book - no - a movie!
I met my brother (technically half brother) for the first time in 1999 and now I have a Sister.
Oh and get this - I'm a Great Aunt. Surely I can't be old enough for that.
So added to my curious but fabulous life is a beautiful sister, a gorgeous Niece and an adorable little man.
For a little girl growing up with very little family, with my mother and no siblings, I am now surrounded by family. And Love, lots of it.
I am also surrounded by my adored and dear friends, old and new that the Universe has blessed me with.
Through some challenging moments as well as some spectacularly wonderful moments, my life becomes richer everyday, teaching me to live my life in a more open, honest and loving manner, that can only benefit not only myself but hopefully the people around me.
Thank you to all of you.
xxxxx
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